Failures? Failure is a relative concept. Avoiding failure is something we learn in life. At some point, most of us have managed to reach a position in which we are conditioned to fear failure, to instinctively avoid failure, and to fixate only on what is in front of us or only on the areas we are already good at. It limits and inhibits humans. We can only be truly successful if there is an area in which we are willing to fail. If we are not willing to fail, we are not willing to succeed either. The fear of failure mostly comes from choosing bad grades. For example, if I measure myself by the standard “Make everyone I meet like me,” I will become anxious because failure is determined 100 percent by the actions of others, not my own. I have no control; because my self-esteem is in the judgment of others. On the other hand, if the author wants to adopt the measure “Improve my social life,” I can live by the value of “maintaining good relations with others” regardless of what others may think of me. My self-assessment is based on my behavior and happiness. If the measure of the value of “success by worldly standards” is “Buy nice houses and cars,” and you spend 20 years working hard to make it happen, once you achieve this, the measure means nothing. There are no other opportunities to keep growing and improving, but it is growth that generates joy, not just a long list of selfish accomplishments. Suffering is part of the process Perhaps right now, many are facing some of life's most significant challenges and are reeling from the fact that everything that was previously thought right and normal and good has turned out to be the opposite. Suffering is part of the process. It's important to feel it. Because if we only pursue pleasure over pain, if we allow ourselves to be carried away by pride and delusional positive thinking, and if we continue to indulge in various things or activities, we will never find the motivation that is the condition for truly changing. Many people, when they feel some form of pain or anger or sadness, ignore it all and begin to feel numb to all the feelings that come over them. Their goal is to “feel good” again as quickly as possible, even if it means changing or deceiving themselves. Learn to endure the pain that has been chosen. When you choose a new value, you are choosing to introduce a new form of pain into your life. feel. Enjoy. Accept it with open arms. Then, do it. Life is about knowing nothing and then doing something no matter what. Everything in life works like this. Never change. Even the happiest times. The “Do Something” Principle When you're lacking the motivation to make a change in your life, do something—whatever it is, really—then use the reaction from that action as a way to start motivating yourself. If you follow the "do something" principle, failure feels insignificant. When the standard for success is simply “doing something”—when every outcome is seen as progress and important, inspiration is seen as a reward rather than a prerequisite—pushing us further. We feel free to fail, and it is failure that moves us forward. The principle of “do something” not only helps us when we are tempted to put off a task, but it is also part of the process of adopting new values. That "something" could be the smallest act of all. It can be anything.